Showing posts with label single life. Show all posts
Showing posts with label single life. Show all posts

Thursday, February 14, 2008

A Real Friend

I got a chance to exchange some conversations with my very good friend using the messenger. We've been friends for about eight years already. She is always with me through thick and thin. I can really attest that she is someone whom you can relay on anytime. If I may recall during college I can easily identify this friend because she is one of the few students in our school wearing a long skirt. The standard skirt lenght of our school uniform is at least three inches below the knees but her skirt is I think around 6-8 inches below the knees. Her built is thin but she stands 5'4 inches. She used to have a partner named Ceasar. They were very closed, that almost everywhere when there is April there will always be Ceasar. To all the guys don't worry, because Ceasar is not her boyfriend and he never became her boyfriend at all ;-). I started to get to know her even more when I became one of the officers of the Junior Personnel Management Association of the Philippines (JPMAP) USJR-chapter. First glance, I could not see any commitment on her when it comes to doing extra curricular activities. She was very comfortable with her routines already. Going to classes, hanging out with Ceasar and the rest of the Stars Unlimited group and then went home to Carmen (northern part of Cebu province) a two hour drive from the school. As I came to know her even more, I found out that she is very intelligent and she has a lot of potentials that are still being locked within her. The good thing was that, she was willing to unlocked it. The time she started to get out from her shell, I saw how she bloom and became a better person. Her faith was also tested by God. Before we gradauted from college, her loving mom passed away. I saw the pain and the grieving she had, but God was so faithful with her. She remains strong and continue to live with great hope. Not only that, her bestfriend also dies from a tryicicle (its a local transportation commonly found in the philippines) accident. It made her afraid a lot of things. Since that friend was so dear to her, she was grieving for the second time. Knowing all these things, I felt so sorry, but I could not do anything about it. I don't have the capacity to take all those pains and grieving away from her. It's the work of God. I just left her to God, praying that she will have the strength to move on and realize that these things happens for some wonderful reasons. As years gone by. I saw her dedication to her chosen career. I will not be surprise if someday, she will became one of the pillars of human resources and gain professional recognation. I'm so blessed and grateful having this person in my life.
She don't know that I was inspired by her life story. It made me see a new perspective in life. She also made me feel special and capable of doing the things I felt I can't do it. She doesn't know this, but mid last year, as we were dinning in Harbour City in SM Cebu I was at the valley and have some self esteem issues going on at that time. I felt, I am nothing and of no use at all. I asked the Lord to send a person whom He can speak His word of encouragement. True enough, He send me April. I was so shocked when she told me this "Chie, your the best, don't allow yourself to be stepped by anybody because you made us who we are right now. Because of your leadership in JPMAP we became even more a better persons, We are so proud of you. " I was really about to cry at that time but I just hold my tears. She don't know what I was going through at that time but those words give me hope and I gain back my confidence. I owe a lot from this friend. This article is to honor her in a special way. She is Ms. April Rose Suico . My everdearest friend forever.

10 Lessons of the Heart

Friends, I would like to share to you this lessons of the heart created by one of my good friend's friend. Original message is from LhiZz:


(1) God is the author of every love life (remember the first love story: Adam & Eve). It is always best to WAIT on God and do it His way (not our own stubborn & unsure ways). He is the perfect Matchmaker! Being in a hurry gives us more pain than gain.

(2) God is concerned and should be involved in our love life. I paraphrased shorter catechism’s question & answer: What is the chief end (purpose) of a relationship? “To glorify God in my love life and enjoy Him through it forever.” (1 Cor. 10:31) Our love life is worship to God. When it glorifies God, then it is the only time when we truly enjoy it. God is not killjoy; rather, His passion is to give us “true joy” not “cheap joy.”

(3) Never love a person more than God. (It is idolatry, devastating, and miserable!) Only God can satisfy us so we should not treat our partner as God; and primary source of happiness and satisfaction.

(4) Know God’s Word and what He says about relationships. Do not be conformed any longer to the pattern of this world (Heb 12:2). The way of the world robs us of God’s best. It is better to be “mocked” by the world because we are obeying God, rather than to hurt ourselves.

(5) Pray with a submissive heart. God doesn’t always answer YES. He says NO when we want something that is not best for us. He says WAIT when He is still preparing the best gift for us. Don’t worry! It would be delivered right on your door at exactly the right time.

(6) Do not enter the “world of dreams” (I mean, stick to reality and not fantasy.) Why? Because it would blind you and drive you crazy! Be guided by wisdom and not by emotions alone. (Jer. 17:9)

(7) Apply Proverbs 3:5-6. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight.” The keyword: TRUST!

(8) Seek to honor God in everything. Set healthy boundaries before it is out of control. The “no big deals” usually and subtly become “big deals” after a while.

(9) Seek for counsel. Asking doesn’t make you look like “ignorant” but “wise.”

(10) Always remind yourself that you are not God, and you are not your partner’s savior!

Friday, April 6, 2007

Single Life



How's your love life? What?! until now you did not have any relationship? Why? Maybe you are very choosy when it comes to men. Sounds familiar? well, almost everday I heard this questions from my new acquintances, old friends, collegues and even from my family. Sometimes I felt irritated when I heard those questions. But what can I do, everyone is free to express what they are thinking. I can not deny the fact that I am not alone in this world in which no one can ever notice me. But I know, I should not be offended with those kind of questions because these people cared for me. They are as excited as I am to see myself being found by my prince charming. Being single is a blessing and an opportunity to be generous in an extravagant way. Not only in financial aspects but in my time and tresures. I realized that I have a lot of available items in my life that needs to be shared. I should not magnified the things which I consider lacking in my life but instead be happy and live a life to the full. This time is an opportunity for me to become the best wife material for my future husband through learning Godly virtues and character. I know that this is not a simple task. It needs a real decision to make and the grace of God not to be worried anymore of my status. I keep myself be reminded of the word of God that one day He will grant me my hearts desire. I am convince to say that "Beautiful things unfolds in times we less expect."