10 Lessons of the Heart

Friends, I would like to share to you this lessons of the heart created by one of my good friend's friend. Original message is from LhiZz:

(1) God is the author of every love life (remember the first love story: Adam & Eve). It is always best to WAIT on God and do it His way (not our own stubborn & unsure ways). He is the perfect Matchmaker! Being in a hurry gives us more pain than gain.

(2) God is concerned and should be involved in our love life. I paraphrased shorter catechism’s question & answer: What is the chief end (purpose) of a relationship? “To glorify God in my love life and enjoy Him through it forever.” (1 Cor. 10:31) Our love life is worship to God. When it glorifies God, then it is the only time when we truly enjoy it. God is not killjoy; rather, His passion is to give us “true joy” not “cheap joy.”

(3) Never love a person more than God. (It is idolatry, devastating, and miserable!) Only God can satisfy us so we should not treat our partner as God; and primary source of happiness and satisfaction.

(4) Know God’s Word and what He says about relationships. Do not be conformed any longer to the pattern of this world (Heb 12:2). The way of the world robs us of God’s best. It is better to be “mocked” by the world because we are obeying God, rather than to hurt ourselves.

(5) Pray with a submissive heart. God doesn’t always answer YES. He says NO when we want something that is not best for us. He says WAIT when He is still preparing the best gift for us. Don’t worry! It would be delivered right on your door at exactly the right time.

(6) Do not enter the “world of dreams” (I mean, stick to reality and not fantasy.) Why? Because it would blind you and drive you crazy! Be guided by wisdom and not by emotions alone. (Jer. 17:9)

(7) Apply Proverbs 3:5-6. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your path straight.” The keyword: TRUST!

(8) Seek to honor God in everything. Set healthy boundaries before it is out of control. The “no big deals” usually and subtly become “big deals” after a while.

(9) Seek for counsel. Asking doesn’t make you look like “ignorant” but “wise.”

(10) Always remind yourself that you are not God, and you are not your partner’s savior!